Paano nga ba mag-move on? I have been constantly getting this kind of question, numerous people asking me how to move on, how to live and act after a very tragic break-up. People who have been cheated on, people who have been a victim of the heart-wrecking pain of ending a long term relationship, people whose heart has been crashed over and over again. But honestly, is there really a step-by-step procedure on how to forget and move on? Para ba ‘tong sinigang, kare-kare o kung ano mang putahe na may pwedeng sunding steps para makarating sa end goal? Honestly, there is none, because whatever I may say, alam naman natin na yang puso mo parin ang most likely susundin mo. But for me, here are some ways to help you get over, one small step at a time!
1. Do not be afraid to cry. Cry it all out.
If you are still in pain, if it’s not yet okay, then so be it. Huwag kang magpanggap na okay ka kasi in the end of the day, sarili mo lang ang niloloko mo. Just let all the tears flow. Ilabas mo lahat ng hinanakit diyan sa puso mo. Sumigaw ka kung gusto mo. Cry until you’re tired of crying and until you have no more tears left to cry. Because trust me, mapapagod ka ring umiyak at malugmok.
2. Accept that it’s over and it will never be the same again.
After crying the heck out of you lungs for days and weeks, accept the fact that it is over. That even if how much you want things to be okay again, it just won’t be the same again. Because acceptance is the essential key to be able to move forward. Syempre, kung di mo matanggap, mahihirapan ka talaga magmove on.
3. Absorb positivity.
Surround yourself with positive people, with people who will never make you feel as if you are hard to understand and to love. People who will make you happy, who will make you laugh out loud, and forget all the sadness.
4. Be better.
Make use of your time productively. Draw, paint, write, sing or dance. Do the things you love. Make yourself busy. Pagkatapos magpakalugmok, strive to be a better version of yourself. Magpaganda/ magpagwapo ka lalo. Yung tipong pagdaan mo sa harap ng ex mo, talagang manlulumo siya. Pang laglag panga, ganern!
In spite of everything, pray for a loving and forgiving heart. Pray that bitterness and anger wouldn’t seep through your soul. Pray for complete healing from within.
It will take a lot of time, a lot of effort and a lot of tears before you become completely over, but trust me, things will get better. You will get better. And a time will come when you will look back and laugh at how stupid you seem to be, crying over that person. You will then realize why it’s better off that you guys didn’t make it through. One day, which is pretty soon, your “f*ck you” will most definitely become “thank you.”