Twenty things I’ve learned in my 20 years of existence.

Since life is such a wonderful gift, I would love to run down the Top 20 things I have learned in the 20 years of existence. Some of this may be cliche but it’s fine, I think a little reminder for everyone won’t harm. This post may be a little lengthy so go on, do yourself a favor and prepare your snacks and drinks before starting!

  1. Change is the only constant thing in this world, besides from that, nothing is ever permanent. That’s why don’t be too hard on yourself every time people tell you that you have changed. Because changing is normal. It is only up to you if you would change for the better. Also, surprisingly, the set of friends who you thought will be there for the rest of your life, won’t. You won’t even get to talk to them as time passes by. In this world, you will lose people and people will lose you and it is fine. That’s perfectly normal. We live in an ever changing world and even if how hard we try, no assurance will ever be given to us.
  2. Stop trying to please everybody. Because you can’t. Stop thinking about what other people might think about you. Because you will never be able to please everybody. Thinking about what they may think about you would just burden you a lot and you will end up disappointed about yourself.
  3. At the end of the day, you are on your own. Nobody else will have your back but yourself. At the end of the day, as you transcend into the darkness of the night, it is only you and yourself alone. Do not depend much on other people, they will disappoint you- harsh but true.
  4. It is okay to cry. Crying doesn’t make you weak at all. It is fine. Just let it all out. Don’t trap all the emotions inside you. Think of crying as a way to cleanse yourself. After crying, trust me, it would feel so much better.
  5. Value people and be open with your feelings. Appreciate and value your family- most especially your parents. You may sometimes (or even most of the times) fight but they love you, and they will always do. Appreciate the people you can to talk anytime about your problems or about anything at all. Appreciate the people who are brutally honest with you. Finding these people are truly rare in the world full of fakes. Do not be afraid to tell people you miss them, or that you love them. You never know when’s your next chance or if there is still a next, life’s too short to hide your feelings.
  6. Be careful of who you trust. At this point in time, half, or more than half of the people you met are only “concerned” because they want to fish some details about you. Do not get fooled. A small number of real friends is  much better than a bunch of fake ones who will end up stabbing your back.
  7. Never ever lower your standards for anyone. Let them reach your standards, if they can’t, then they are not the right one.
  8. Be nice to everyone. Everyone is fighting a battle we know nothing of. Everyone is having a hard time. Do not allow yourself to be an additional burden to people. After all, it wouldn’t hurt to be nice.
  9. It always seems impossible until it is done. Do not limit yourself. Go on and push yourself off the boundaries you and the people around you have set. Do not give up on your goals and on your dreams because at first, it always seems impossible but it isn’t. Nothing is truly impossible if you believe.
  10. Do more of what makes you happy. Find time to be able to do the little things that makes you happy, even if how busy you are.
  11. Smile.  Go on and attract positivity. Set a positive mindset and trust me, everything else will follow. Also, always remember to smile because you don’t know how you can make someone’s day by just simply smiling.
  12. Learn to listen. Listening is an art, learn to practice that. It is very vital to listen carefully before doing anything, this might save you from danger.
  13. Admit your mistakes. We are all humans, we all make mistakes and even if how hard it is, we must admit that. This shows that you’re someone with integrity and courage.
  14. Do not lose the passion. Enjoy what your doing. This is one of the key to success- continue to be passionate on what you do because once you love what you are doing, you will never get tired of doing it. Also, you will never consider it as an additional work.
  15. Do your best and strive hard in everything that you do. Do not settle for “pwede na” output. Once you start doing something, pour your heart to it. Do your best and strive for excellence. If you would start spending time on something, make sure it’s worth it in the end.
  16. Know when to hold on and when to give up. Letting go is not really a sign of weakness all the time. There are moments where in being able to let go means you are strong. Know your worth, know your value and know when you’ve had enough.
  17. Do what is right, even if everybody else is doing otherwise. Hold on to your values because in this world, you will meet a lot of people who will test your integrity. Remember to do what is right all the time, even if others won’t and even if no one will see you.
  18. Do not be afraid to take risks. You won’t go else where if you will only continue doing what you are currently doing. Step out of your comfort zone. Do not hinder yourself from experiencing new things just because you are afraid to take risks.
  19. Love, even if it hurts and forgive, even if how hard. Leap and crash, it is fine. Because that it is better than doing nothing and experiencing nothing. Remember that in life, there are things worth getting hurt for and love is one of them.
  20. Live. And be happy while doing so. There are a lot of reasons to keep fighting and keep living. It may sometimes seem as if your world is trembling down, but trust me, it will get better, it do get better.

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Catherine is a 20-something BS Nutrition student of the University of the Philippines, but her heart screams for the art. She is a freelance creative and model, an artist and a writer, and an advocate of human rights and the environment.

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